Last summer, I was out with some friends for some drinks. One of the girls who I barely knew felt the need to give me a lesson in social niceties. She pulled me aside and said I needed to smile more, and that I came across as cold, and that I don’t send out a signal to anyone that I am friendly.
The insecure 16-year-old high school student in me came out. I personalized her view of me and thought her impression of me was obviously correct. I got over it, but from time to time I would reflect back on that conversation (lecture?) and become sensitive about it.
Well riddle me this. Last month one of my guy friends asked if he could give one of his friends my number. Loooooooong story short, this guy was someone that I met the exact same night I was given this lecture. And, he remembered me as being “cute, funny, and nice“.
In case you’re wondering…no, nothing came out of this. But I was reminded that it is OK to personalize comments made about you…just make sure it’s only the good ones.
Eat your heart out, honey.
yeah… that girl was probably jealous of you